Help us with 9 useful tips from the book "The Happiness Equation: Want Nothing + Do Anything = Have Everything" by Neil Pasricha.
From the article you will learn not only the reasons for unfortunate events in life, but also ways to get rid of them and become a little happier. And to acquire new useful habits, don't forget the assignment. Are you ready?
Enjoy reading!
1. To change your life, change your attitude
Many people feel happy only in old age, when they are sitting in front of a warm fireplace with grandchildren running around. And some people have never experienced this feeling at all. You can be miserable all you want, but what if you tried to change your attitude to life now?
I know it sounds simple, but it's quite the opposite. If you, like me, still don't feel happy, just go for your goals, enjoy the process, be happy. Then one day you will stop and quietly say: "So this is what happiness is like...".
2. Our brains are organized like this: we look for a problem - we find it - we solve it
Think back to your school years, when your class teacher told your parents that your grades in English, for example, were good, but that you had problems with physics. After that, usually all efforts are directed to improving grades in physics, and forget about the strengths. But this is a serious mistake.
Since childhood, our brain is used to seeing problems in something and solving them. Try to focus not on problems, but on what you are good at, and then you will be a little happier.
3. 7 gratitudes per week or one per day
A gratitude journal is a very useful practice. Its essence is that you need to be grateful for something every day. It could be a "thank you" to a mug for its convenience or to a random passerby for an infectious laugh. Look around you, you definitely have something to be grateful for.
A diary like this helps you set your life on a positive wave and get energized. I already keep one, why don't you join me?
4. Identify which side of the triangle you are on
Imagine a triangle is drawn on the floor of your room. Each vertex has a different name:
- financial results.
- recognition from others
- is your own growth.
Think about what is really important to you and stand on those vertices. You can stand on one corner, you can take 2 corners at once, but you can't stand on all corners at the same time. You're not a centipede, you only have 2 legs, right? So it's better to focus on one or two indicators to definitely achieve a good result.
5. Don't try to please everyone, do it for yourself
When-you do something not for yourself, but for others, your desire to continue it gradually decreases. This has been proven many times by experiments on many people.
Have you heard this phrase? It has gained popularity for a reason. Think about it and tell yourself if you are doing what you are doing.
6. The age of "more" instead of the age of "enough".
We live in a very convenient time. The supermarket shelves near your home are bursting with a variety of cheeses, sausages and other products. It's the same story with clothes - you can make up your own style and wear T-shirts with any prints you want. Because of this excess of choice, we become real slaves.
Try to get rid of the invisible shackles. There's no need to buy yourself three T-shirts and two jeans at every sale, you know? It's an echo of the age of "consumerism." Think in terms of do's and don'ts.
7. How many decisions do you think you make in one day?
We face many choices every day. We decide to stand in traffic or take a detour, cook dinner or order pizza. But how many times does this happen? Neil Pasrich, author of The Happiness Formula, has answered that question:
280 to 350 times
Now imagine how much energy you could save throughout the day if you organized your choice moments. For example, you could decide what to wear not in the morning, but in the evening of the previous day. Or answer messages not all the time, but only at 12:00 and 17:00 (as long as it doesn't interfere with work). What do you think?
8. Benchmark test
Before entering an educational institution or getting a job, we study information on official websites. But there they usually write only what we want to see. But how do we find out the truth?
The author of the book Neil Pasrich shared one trick. Before choosing a university, he sat on a bench where there were the most students around and listened for an hour to what they were talking about. Somewhere they were discussing some problems, somewhere others, and near one university they were talking about the prospects of development.
Try this method or just ask someone in social networks. But you should not blindly believe websites and brochures.
9. Don't ask for advice if you are sure you are right
Every person has a different worldview. Therefore, the advice that someone gives you based on their circumstances and experience will not be applicable to you.
It turns out, then, that there is no point in consulting others. At best you will find confirmation of your rightness, and at worst you will give up and give up your idea altogether. Let's not let that happen, shall we?
Why are you here?
I think you want to change your life for the better, right? I'm sure your formula for happiness is just around the corner. But just reading the conclusions is not enough, you will quickly forget them, believe me. But you can and should try to turn them into your own useful habit.
If you don't keep a gratitude journal yet, start one. Within a week you will feel a change in your attitude towards the world
Implement at least 2 more conclusions from this article in your life.
This was a review of the book "The Happiness Equation: Want Nothing + Do Anything = Have Everything"